God knows you need a wellness plan.
I mean that in the purest sense. God knows you. He knows what you need.
He wants you to spend some time getting to know yourself a bit better by reflecting on what you need to be at your very best, ready to serve.
He knows that what you need is a plan to seek out and welcome the healing touch of his grace in every part of your life.
The Psalmist confesses, “O Lord, you have searched me and you know me” (Psalm 139:1). Once we get past the frightening thought that he knows everything about me, it becomes a comfort that he knows what I need.
When Jesus restored people through his healing grace, it was always personal. He asked questions. He often knew what people needed more than they did themselves.
He “knows how we are formed” and he “forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases” (Psalm 103). His pointed questions turned people inward to consider their own brokenness, then he responded with miracles of renewal.
My pastoral counselor, with whom I had been visiting for a few weeks in a particularly trying time, once asked me, “Darrell, what do you need?”
The question hit me like a ton of bricks. I was so busy trying to serve everyone else, I had not considered the hurt I was feeling on a variety of different levels, and how much I was in need of the grace I was working so hard to dispense to others.
My counselor didn’t know what I needed. I don’t know what you need.
“What do you need? How do you want it?”
Talking with hundreds of church workers in recent years, I’m often tempted to offer advice. That would be a big mistake.
A personal wellness plan comes when you consider the two questions that only you can answer.
Only you know what you need, because only you can look inside and see what hurts. If you and I were to experience the exact same series of painful events, we might receive the wounds differently.
A harsh critique might affect me spiritually and make me doubt my call into ministry. The same words might damage your relationship with the critic more deeply than your life with God.
It’s personal. Only you can pinpoint the experiences that have left you most wounded, and where you’re hurting; spiritually, relationally, physically, emotionally.
And only you can best determine what your way of receiving the Lord’s healing grace might best look like. You know your personality best.
You know your learning style.
You know how much time and energy it might take for you to work through whatever is hindering your wellbeing.
Don’t try this alone. A mentor, coach, confessor or counselor can be a great help as you look inward, but the best wellness plan is the one you develop for yourself.
Relying on the healing grace of Jesus.
Thanks for reading.
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